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PAY ATTENTION TO THE WOMAN'S ORGASM
  The Taoists discovered a lot of mysteries of sexual intercourse in their desire to decipher the vital energy mystery. It had to pass thousands of years so that everything they knew about sex to be rediscovered by modern doctors and psychiatrists (see the book of Mantak Chia - "Taoist LOVE Secrets" Divia Publishing House).
Taoists asked men to practice COITUS REZERVATUS (to delay ejaculation as much as possible and even to avoid it) not only to prolong the pleasures of intercourse but also to make it easy for their lovers to have orgasm.
In the famous dialogue between the Chinese Emperor Honang II and his protégée Sou-Nu, there are 5 signs, 5 wishes and 10 commandments for a man to feel when the woman has orgasm:
THE 5 "SIGNS" OF ORGASM 1. The woman's face becomes red and her ears are warm. This shows that her mind is enchanted with the idea of sexual intercourse. The man can start the sexual act gently and he penetrates her a little as in a play, expecting for her reactions.
2. Her nose gets wet from transpiration and her nipples harden firmly. This shows that the fire of her desire intensified itself. Now the penis can be introduced at five fingers depth but not more. Men should wait for her desire to become more intense before going in deeper.
3. When her voice sounds different as if she had her throat dry, then her desire has grown a lot in intensity. She keeps her eyes closed and the man can hear her breathing deeply. This is the moment when the penis can move freely into the vagina. The profound union between the two is reaching the erotic ecstasy.
4. The vagina becomes very slippery and hot when the fire of her desire approaches its peak; at every of his moves his fluids come in waves and make her shudder with overwhelming pleasure.
5. When her legs get up spontaneously so as to embrace him her desire reached its peak. Now she puts her legs and her arms around him passionately. These signs indicate that the man can try and penetrate her as deep as possible, feeling her body with complete satisfaction that is the result of the amazing intensity of the erotic experiences.
 THE 10 COMMANDMENTS OF A WOMAN'S ORGASM
1. The woman embraces him strongly while the inside of her becomes alive. She kisses him trying to excite him more and more. Thus she lets him see how ardent her desire is.
2. She is laying down with her limbs almost fixed. She is breathing loudly through her nostrils, abandoning to the erotic experiences. Thus she shows him that she wants his virile limb inside her.
3. She plays with his asleep penis touching it with her body. Thus she shows her desire of having him excited again.
4. Her eyes sort of stare and her eyebrows move fast; she sounds guttural or caresses him ecstatically. Thus she shows how excited she is.
5. She spreads her legs and opens up her vagina as wide as she can. Thus she shows him that her pleasure is so big and she asks him to penetrate her even deeper.
6. Her tongue comes out of her mouth and she caresses her lips with it. It tells that she wants superficial penetrations to alternate with profound ones.
7. With her legs and buttocks obtained through the spontaneous contraction of her vagina muscles she tries to keep within her his penis and at the same time she whispers tenderly admiration words, in a low voice. Thus she shows him that the YIN force becomes a lot stronger inside her.
8. The woman twists her waist. She sweats much and a cute smile enlightens her face. It shows that her erotic energy is great and that she doesn't want for him to stop in order to offer her as much pleasure as possible, going on with the erotic game.
9. The sweet feeling of lust is still there and her pleasure gets bigger and bigger. The YIN force is almost at its peak. She embraces him strongly. It tells him that she hasn't had her orgasm yet, but that she is thrilled with pleasure.
10. All of her body is now hot and wet. Her legs and arms loosen up. She is now completely satisfied because she reached the top of sensual bliss.
20 Steps to Maximize your Orgasm Potential
Fantastic orgasm isn't necessarily owed to the right position, a particular rhythm, atmospheric lighting, or satin sheets. In fact, the first few steps to orgasm begin outside of the bedroom.
1. Communicate with your partner. If you are angry, upset, or buried under a heap of unresolved emotional issues, you will probably have trouble letting go during sex. A good relationship with someone you trust is important for orgasmic success. Talk out your general problems and concerns and you will be surprised at how much lighter, freer, and happier you will feel.
2. Learn to manage stress. Relaxation techniques, breathing exercises, exercise, and yoga are all excellent ways to dissipate stress. An all around healthy lifestyle is not only good for you, but it can improve things between the sheets.
3. Refrain from too much alcohol before lovemaking. While drugs and alcohol may loosen you up, they hamper your ability to orgasm.
4. Explore your anatomy. When you are alone (or with a partner) get to know your body. Women can use a mirror to examine their vulvas. An understanding of how you are constructed is essential to learning how to experience pleasure.
5. Masturbate. Practice makes perfect and masturbating is a fun way to explore your body, your fantasies, and your orgasmic potential. Once you know where your pleasure spots are, you can share this information with your partner.
6. Women can do Kegel exercises to strengthen their pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. These are the muscles that stop the flow of urine. A strong PC muscle can heighten genital sensitivity and intensify orgasms. If your partner is a man, he will love the firm grip on his penis. For toned PC muscles, simply pretend you are stopping a pee. Once you understand where the muscle is, you can practice with repetitions (fast or long and slow) while on the bus, at work, or watching television. Nobody will know. Do these exercises daily and within a week to a month you will notice a difference.
7. Foreplay and arousal. Spend time and energy on foreplay. This is an excellent time to explore each other's bodies, to tease and to tantalize. And getting steamed up and turned on will send you hurtling towards orgasmic bliss. Develop an awareness of the physical changes that occur when you are very aroused. Men experience a strong erection. For women, the vulva and vagina become swollen (engorged with blood) and wet with lubrication. If you need the extra help of some water-based lubricant, go for it.
8. Verbal and/or non-verbal communication is essential during lovemaking. Tell or guide your partner around your body. S/he doesn't necessarily know intuitively what feels good and what will make you come, so lend a hand! And if you are comfortable doing so, it is incredibly helpful to actually talk about your sexual likes and dislikes with your partner (either in or out of the bed).
9. Don't worry about losing control or composure. Queen Dom's survey showed that your partner loves it when you get lost in that groove, when you can't stop boogying to the beat of your lover's drum. So make faces, make noise, and lose yourself in the moment. Your partner will love it and so will you!
10. Love yourself. You are as sexy as you feel yourself to be.
11. Don't get in the habit of faking orgasm if it isn't happening on its own. You are only deceiving yourself and your partner and this easy way out will only stand in the way of you and orgasm.
12. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day. Learning about your body, your partner's body, and your own sexual response is a delightful endeavor that will take some time (depending on the person), but will certainly be rewarding.
13. Learn. Each time you have sex, focus on where you like being touched and how you like being touched.
14. Be a little greedy. When you know what you like, ask for it. Your pleasure is your partner's delight.
15. Redefine your ideas of what sex is. Try new techniques, positions, moves, and tricks. Be experimental and you may find something special that you didn't know about before.
16. Fantasize and think about sex. Recreate in your head the fantastic sex you had the other night. Use your imagination and create a sexy, racy scenario. Getting your brain geared up and ready to go is a surefire way to get your genitals to follow.
17. Experiment with frequency. While it is true that practice makes perfect, try refraining from sex for a few days. Building up erotic tension between you and your partner could result in an explosive release!
18. Seek knowledge. Gather information about sex and sexuality. Read self-help books on orgasm.
19. If you feel that you need some extra help, see a sex therapist or counselor. S/he can help you pinpoint what is standing between you and orgasm and help you overcome it.
and most important,
20. Don't be goal oriented! Focusing on your own orgasm is the wrong way to experience one. Relax, enjoy yourself, and learn the fine art of relishing pleasure and affection. Orgasm will follow naturally.
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