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Here is the Secret
Sensual Sexual Bliss
The secret to sensual sexual bliss is very simple. Forget everything you've ever learned, from mom and dad to Masters and Johnson and everybody else for sexual maps are not the sexual territory. Learn again to enjoy the baby's mind, not knowledgeable about sex, yet the whole body one ecstatic organ. Baby's mind, quiet and calm, yet full of life, like the meeting place of sand and sea, body and mind. Set aside the familiar past as much as you can, enjoy this adventure of the baby's mind in the adult body.
It is not in conflict with morality. Nothing is worse than sex without love, or love without sex. It's learning to enjoy "sexual love". It's a blending of sexual energy and love. It's all about becoming  naked. And not just naked of the body alone. It begins with nakedness of the body, but does not end with the body only. We must learn to enjoy emotional nakedness, mental nakedness, nakedness of our innermost essence. Too many people rush their lovemaking. They engage only in physical nakedness with maybe a few flashes of naked feelings here and there. Some people feel burdened by flesh, they long to soar through the sky. Our bodies are not the baggage, out bodies are the ticket. For example, wanting the feelings that while making love, our bodies contract, expand, liquefy, shake, burn, glow, melt, merge. The feeling that you are flying, two people become one, seeing the brilliant colors, feeling the natural "high", to disappear into another world for a while. Making love expands your consciousness. This is not a high from drugs or alcohol, but high on natural, completely "naked" sex. It's a very safe, fantastic, natural high. Sexual energy is not a special or unique energy, in fact, sexual energy is the energy of life expressing itself in sex. While making love you experience this energy of life quite intensely. While you make love you feel more alive, in fact you ARE more alive.
Hitting the G
The G-spot is a contentious issue. Some people (mostly men) claim that it doesn't exist. Some women rave about the intensity of a G-spot orgasm. Like anything, it's different for everyone but you can certainly have fun trying to find it.
If you've never masturbated before, starting with a G-spot orgasm is a bit like trying to study for a degree before you've learned to read. It's an ambitious thing to try for.
First of all, try masturbating to give yourself a clitoral orgasm; by far the easiest to achieve. Using a lubricated finger (saliva is fine for lubrication in this instance) rub your clitoris and labia or slide a finger inside yourself to see what feels good. Some women also like rubbing against something like a pillow. You could also use a toy but it's always good to start with a finger so you know how to give yourself an orgasm without needing batteries in the house.
If you find something that gets you going, keep doing it and you should come. Don't focus on the fact that you want to have an orgasm as they're elusive little beasts and tend to prefer creeping up on you rather than being thought about too much.
Once you've come in this way, move on to the G-spot orgasm.
The G-Spot is located on the upper wall of your vagina. Start masturbating then, once you're wet enough, slide a finger or two up your vagina and press relatively firmly on the top wall of your vagina (towards your pubic area rather than towards your ass) about an inch up. When (if) you feel a spongy length of tissue that feels good when you stimulate it, you've hit the spot.
If it doesn't feel tingly, carry on moving your finger(s) up by about half an inch at a time. All women are different so keep moving your fingers until you find an area that tingles when you press on it. You may find a G Spot vibe helps you, as it can be a tricky thing to locate.
You may not get a great amount of pleasure from G-spot stimulation or even be able to find it at all. Different women get off on different things so it may well be that this isn't a particularly sensitive area for you (well, no more than the rest of your vagina) Conversely, you could have a mind-blowing orgasm. Be prepared, G-spot stimulation can lead to female ejaculation in some women so don't get freaked out if there's a squirt of fluid when you come. It's not urine. The fluid is similar to the male ejaculate from prostate fluids. And remember, when aroused to near orgasm, it is physically impossible to urinate, because the urinary tract is completely blocked. IF you have the feeling as though you want to urinate, RELEASE that, DON'T hold back. THAT is the beginning of the greatest orgasm you will ever experience. That is what the Orientals call the Great Typhoon, the ultimate orgasm, and yes, you will ejaculate fluids similar to the male ejaculation. When (if) you reach that point, let it out, think of yourself and nothing else, take that moment of pleasure. If you flood your partner, that is his problem, and if his is attuned to you, he will encourage you to go all the way, and enjoy that feeling with and for you. Too many women who have never had this explained to them sequester that moment because it does feel as though you want to urinate, and they stop.
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