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Orgasms for Two Tips
ORGASMS FOR TWO TIPS
By Betty Dodson Ph.D.
1. Get to know your beautiful vulva. With a makeup mirror
that stands alone freeing both hands, aim an adjustable lamp
directly at your genitals with open legs. Locate your
clitoris and explore outside and inside your magnificent sex
organ. Do a vulva massage using my recommended massage oil,
Charlie Sunshine's "Secret Formula".
2. Become an expert on self-stimulation. Spend at least
thirty minutes to an hour pleasuring yourself. Through
masturbation, learn how you like to have your clitoris
touched manually or with a vibrator. Share this information
with your lover.
3. Locate your pelvic floor muscle. The PC muscle is the one
that stops the flow of urine. Once you learn to isolate this
muscle, squeeze and release it for fifty repetitions several
times a week with or without a resistance device like
Betty's Barbell.
4. Focus on breathing during your self loving sessions. While
gently rocking your pelvis forward and back, squeeze the PC
on the forward rock inhaling and release the PC as you
exhale dropping back. Let sounds of pleasure come out on the
exhale.
5. Combine clitoral stimulation with PC muscle contractions.
Practice using your PC muscle when you masturbate at least
once a week or more. A strong PC muscle creates better
orgasms for women and men. Learn to use this muscle during
intercourse to heighten pleasurable sensations for both you
and your lover.
6. The organs that trigger orgasm. Just as the head of the
penis is a man's primary pleasure organ, the clitoris is a
woman's with 8000 nerve endings. The vagina is ideal
stimulation for men's orgasm, but penis/vagina penetration
rarely contacts the clitoris adequately to create a women's
orgasm. Direct clitoral stimulation is needed.
7. Vaginal penetration. When a finger, dildo or penis
presses up into the ceiling of the vagina with shallow
penetration, it applies pressure to the spongy tissue
surrounding the urinary tract that lies just above. This can
create a sensuous feeling when combined with clitoral
stimulation for some women but not all.
8. Take control of your own clitoral stimulation during
intercourse. Never feel inadequate or apologize when you
want direct clitoral touching with your fingers or a
vibrator during partner sex. When a woman protects her
lover's ego while sacrificing her own orgasm, she does a
disservice to them both.
9. The Combination Orgasm. Along with your preferred kind of
clitoral stimulation, do slow vaginal penetration that is
followed by slow rhythmic in and out movements. During
intercourse, use your PC muscle while rocking your pelvis
and breathing out loud. Additional lubrication on your
lover's finger, penis or dildo always feels more sensuous.
10. Explore your erotic mind. During self loving sessions,
tell yourself a sexy story or replay a hot sex scene that
actually happened. Embellish the details or add to the
scenario. Don't judge your sexual fantasies and remember,
you are playing all the roles. Using sexual fantasy during
partner sex can heighten the experience of orgasm.
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