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Make Her Feel Good About Herself
Listening to some of you guys talking about woman and sex is like listening to blind men talking about rainbows and sunsets.
Make her feel good about herself.
You have to feel good about making a woman feel good about herself. That means if you don't truly like what you see or feel, then you certainly can't make her feel good about herself.
Romance is not just taking her out to dinner.
Romance is an attitude. An attitude you create - anywhere. It involves sharing pleasures in such a way that let's your partner know she's special. It is being in the present with the one you love, sharing whatever it is you are doing, creating joy. Something as small as a wink, a smile, or a touch can set it in motion. And voila, you're a romantic.
The place or surroundings do NOT make you a romantic. It is an attitude. It's when your attitude shows her that you appreciate her uniqueness, That is romantic.
Romance is cumulative, like an investment. It compounds itself over time. With each small romantic moment, the relationship grows more romantic as a whole. Women remember romance for ever.
_ Surprise her
_ Pamper her - Trust me, it does NOT blemish your "Macho" image.
_ Notice her - in other words, desire her, be specific, and tell her so. There is nothing more romantic than admiring her body, her smell, and the way she moves.
_ Be Private in public - That certain naughtiness is very romantic for women.
Share Sensual Pleasures - Eating can be one of them
_ Touch her - Anywhere, anytime, it keeps her wanting you. Women need to be touched, and much more often. Touching with tenderness.
_ Paying attention to her ideas -
_ Participate in her life - Take an interest in what she likes to do.
If you don't let a woman know she is special to you, there is no romance. It's that simple.
You have to tell her that, not just your friends at the local bar where you hang out. SHE has to be told she is special.
_ Love here for who she is
_ Appreciate what she does
_ Recognize her genius
_ Affirm her beauty
Start leaning to appreciate what she does at home. The flowers, the dinner, the garden, for what she does for you, for the kids, and thank her for it. Or are you that stupidly proud that you think only YOU deserve praise?
_ Take time - when you first met you spent a lot of time together, quality time. You listened to her thoughts, hopes, feelings and dreams, without judging, You sought to know her desires. You wanted her to want you, and she did. Why did you stop doing that?
_ Make her your priority - She has to feel that she is your first priority, but she can't read your mind. You have to let her know. When making plans, ask her for her input also.
_ Help Her be her best - Encourage her to develop her potential in whatever she does. We all need that encouragement from those close to us. The more self worth, the happier her life will be, and the happier you will be to have her close. Nothing is more refreshing than a woman you care about with a warm, happy smile on her face.
_ Prove your love for her - In fairy tales the Knight slays the dragon for his love. We don't do that anymore, but a woman still wants her man to do things he has never done for anyone else. Be creative and think of something. If you can't paint or draw, then that is what you could do for her.
Since very, very early times,
man has done those things
special for woman what has
never been done before for
her by anyone else.
This cave drawing is an
excellent example of that.
In fact, this is actually one beginning of clothing. Man
did not put on the wolf pelt
for any other reason in the
beginning, except to show
woman that he is special.
"See what I have killed. Aren't
I special ?"
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Something you have never done for anyone else. She will cherish it forever, no matter how bad you think it is.
_ help with her tasks -
_ Show her respect -
_ Share nature with her - Go for those walks and enjoy, the sunrise, the sunset, the moon, the smell of the rain, the flowers in the woods. And believe it or not, but these are sensual delights which lead to romance when they are shared.
Flirt with her - Romance is much more fun when it's a little naughty. Naughtiness adds excitement, interest, intrigue. Flirting creates that naughty mood. Nothing makes a woman feel more youthful than flirting.
Perhaps even more important is reliving the good times, the laughs you had together, and the silly moments. This refreshes romance. Remember the teasing, touching, and laughing at things you can't even remember why you were laughing. But, live in the present, not in the past. Today is important, the past is gone, and no one knows the future.
Too many people spend much to much time in the future. That's a mistake many men make. They think they were happier where they were, or where they are going, but never happy at the moment.
But, remain immature. A man who is in touch with the child inside of him is the ultimate turn-on for woman. Because, he possesses so many traits than women find attractive. He is playful, imaginative, and has the ability to dream. He is honest, curious, compassionate, and has the ability to enjoy the present.
Romance is a natural Aphrodisiac.
To please a woman sexually, keep her coming back for more. Forethought must be come before foreplay. Women do not view sex as an isolated event. Passion does not begin when you turn out the lights. In fact you shouldn't even consider turning out the lights. There is nothing more pleasing to the eye than to see your woman prancing around naked. Women are not going to be in the mood simply because you show up. Her love and passion need nurturing throughout the day, and before. And if you don't have the patience or understanding for this, then you are sure to fail as a romantic sex God in her eyes. You are simply a rigid pole on which they will impale themselves to relieve sexual stress. That is if course if the "pole" stays rigid long enough for them to get satisfaction.
Also, talking about sports, your job, the children, the neighbors, your bad back, the things which need repairing, and the dirty dishes in the sink, relatives, or whatever, is not conversation which arouses a woman sensually or sexually. Sweet-talk subjects include anything sensual: music, art, literature especially erotic or sensual literature), food, wine, nature, colors, fabrics, and of course sex. And if you have fantasies, then share them with her. Also ask her to share her fantasies with you. That is true intimacy.
Begin practicing foreplay. What is foreplay? It is prolonged stimulation that promotes physical arousal. PROLONGED. That is the key. That is what too many of my male colleagues are too lazy to do. And it does not mean a few minutes or even hours before sex. It means cumulative, days weeks months.
_ Invite her to dinner, in your own home. Send the kids to their room early, and take the time to laugh, giggle with her.
The way to learn her desires is simple, by trial and pleasure. There are no quickies worth talking about. If you are not prepared to spend the time before, during and after, then don't even begin. If it's a job which you feel needs to be done, or simply to relieve your “pressures”, then you are destined to doom. Take pride and pleasure in what you do for her, with her, and what she does for you.
And snuggling after sex is even more important than anything else you do before and during. It holds that intimacy.
Always encourage her to be sexy. If a woman feels sexy, she'll be sexy. If a man wants her to feel free and happy in romance and sex, he must show her that she need not hide from him. It is actually a man who makes a woman feel beautiful and get rid of her inhibitions.
Yup, it requires that you get off your fat ass and do something besides complain.
And further more, the size of you cock and the size of your bank account does not determine the degree of romanticism. The tools don't make the craftsman.
If you guys are too fat-ass lazy to take an interest and learn, then you should have married your mother. She is the only woman in the world who will always adore you, even if you are an inconsiderate, lazy slob.
And if you think this is harsh and take offense, then you are definitely guilty of neglecting the romantic part of your relationship. Otherwise you would say, “Hey, this guy has got a point, maybe I am neglecting and taking for granted.”
So, if your take you time, and take genuine interest,
she will also, always do something special for you.
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